Set Yourself up for Success with Your New Year Resolutions.
Take some time to think about the changes you want to make and how you’re going to go about making them and write down your goals. Writing things down gets them out of your head and makes them more real and you can go back to look at what you’ve written to reinforce your intentions.
Once you’ve decided what you’re ready to let go of and what you’re ready to manifest into your life, you can then create an action plan and go ahead and make it happen step by step. Make your goals SMART:
S – Specific
M – Measurable
A – Achievable
R – Realistic
T – Time-bound
While it’s good to be ambitious, it’s not good to be over-ambitious and set yourself up for failure! If you tell yourself you’re only going to drink green vegetable smoothies for the next month and go to the gym every day for a workout you may start off dong so enthusiastically but it’s highly unlikely it will last, and then you’re likely to beat yourself up, tell yourself you ‘can’t do it’ and go back to your old unhealthy ways.
Your thoughts create your reality, so if you tell yourself that you can’t do something, that things are going to be difficult or deep down you don’t believe that you deserve to be slim, healthy, successful, happy or fulfilled, the chances are high that this is what will happen. Become aware of your what’s going on your mind – your powerful inner voice – then choose to take control of it and change it, rather than allowing it to take control of you. You have the power to make things happen.
Use Both Your Conscious and Subconscious Mind to Achieve Your New Year Resolutions
So many people go through life without ever becoming aware that their deep-rooted fears and beliefs are stopping them from achieving their goals, manifesting their dreams, and reaching their full potential. Consciously, we may think that we want to achieve certain goals, but the limiting beliefs we’ve developed as a result of our fears are stopping us from doing so. These beliefs are held in our subconscious minds and lead to the thoughts that we think, over and over again. As we think around 65,000 thoughts each day, you can probably get an idea of just how powerful your mind is in creating how you feel, act and react!
As Henry Ford, founder of the Ford Motor company, famously said ‘If you think you can do a thing, or you think you can’t, you are right’. In other words, if you tell yourself something often enough, it becomes a belief, and consequently it will become a reality, a ‘self-fulfilling prophecy’. So, you can see why it makes sense to become aware of your thoughts, and words, and begin to choose to make them positive ones.
Your mind is divided into two parts, only 5-10% is conscious and in your awareness, and the other 90-95% is subconscious, or unconscious, and hidden beneath the surface. The relatively tiny conscious mind is the part you use when you are focusing, planning, and paying full attention to something.
Your subconscious mind is continuously taking in information, as well as storing every memory of every experience you’ve ever had. It can be likened to a seven-year old child, as during the first six to seven years of your life, it became programmed by the messages you received from your parents or carers. Those messages include the words that were spoken to you, those spoken about you, and those which were unspoken but clearly implied by the actions and reactions of the influential adults around you.
Of those 65,000 thoughts you have each day, the chances are that around 90% of them are negative. You may well have a harsh critic living inside your head that’s comparing you to other people and telling you you’re likely to fail, you’re not good enough, other people are better than you, you can’t do it (whatever ‘it’ may be) and so on. So it’s important to become aware of what’s going on in your powerful mind, stop the negative self-defeating chatter and and create a positive inner dialogue.
Think Positively to Achieve Your New Year Resolutions
Once you realise that it’s your own mind that’s been holding you back and causing you to fail over the years, it’s time to change track and begin to direct your life so it can go exactly where you want it to.
Just imagine your subconscious mind shouting out things like You’ll never do it!, There’s no point in trying, It won’t work, You can’t change, You’re useless, You haven’t got what it takes, You should just give up. But you are making a decision that you are no longer prepared to listen to that nonsense. You have the power to order it to stop and let it know that you’re taking back control.
The good news is, just as the repetition of negative messages creates deep-rooted beliefs, so can the repetition of positive self-talk, otherwise known as autosuggestion or affirmations. These are phrases which you can use to reprogramme your mind and change the thoughts you think and the beliefs you hold with new positive messages and beliefs. Instead of telling yourself I can’t, you begin to tell yourself I can. Instead of criticising yourself, you look in the mirror and tell yourself I’m amazing, I can achieve anything I put my mind to!.
When you’re able to accept that what you’re saying isn’t yet true, but you decide that you’re going to keep repeating it anyway until it is, you open up to allow the affirmations to begin to work. Repeating a couple of affirmations is not going to magically change how you feel overnight but it will begin the process of changing how your mind works. Continuing to use affirmations on a daily basis will, however, very quickly start to change your beliefs and how you feel about yourself.
Visualise & Imagine Success to Achieve Your New Year Resolutions
The majority of successful athletes and performers have known for some time that for peak performance it’s just as important to use mental exercises to train their minds, as it is to physically exercise and train their bodies. They visualise themselves achieving their personal best over and over again until they make it happen in reality. Over recent years, the power of creative visualisation has become more widely know about and a rapidly growing number of people from various walks of life are now using it to create success in all areas of their lives.
This method can help you achieve your goals and create the changes you want to make in your life. You can do this too by choosing to create positive images of yourself in your mind’s eye, perhaps looking calm, relaxed, confident and happy, maybe looking fitter, healthier, more energised, a few pounds lighter. You can also use it to visualise yourself in the future having achieved whatever you want to have in your life, being more organised, having a successful business or career, being debt-free and financially secure.
After creating the image it’s important to not just see it but to imagine you’ve stepped into the scene, into your ideal self, and you’re feeling like you’re already there having achieved your goals. When you daydream you become unaware of your actual reality and your subconscious mind believes what you’re experiencing in your virtual reality is real.
Have you ever worried about the possibility of something going wrong in the future then started to imagine how you’d feel if it did, and before you knew it you were reacting anxiously as though it already had? This shows how your imagination doesn’t know the difference between a real and a strongly imagined experience, so if it can happen automatically in a negative way, you can use the same process to imagine yourself having positive experiences.
When you repeatedly practise seeing and imagining yourself the way you want to be, rather than the way you don’t want to be, you begin to reprogramme your subconscious mind to accept that the imagined you is the real you, and it begins to do whatever it takes to make it happen to make those new year resolutions work for you!
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